- Your desire to lead means a lot to me. -1 Ti 3:1 If a man desires the position of elder, he desires a good work.
- I really appreciate that you want to do the right thing. -1 Ti 3:2 An elder must be blameless
- You are such a loyal man -1 Ti 3:2 An elder must be the husband of one wife
- I like how self controlled and kind you are. -1 Ti 3:2 An elder must be temperate
- You do a good job of being rational -1 Ti 3:2 An elder must be sober minded
- I’m so glad I married a man with the fruit of the Spirit -1 Ti 3:2 An elder must be a good behavior
- It means a lot that you help me have a home to have friends over. -1 Ti 3:2 An elder must be hospitable
- I think you’re really wise. -1 Ti 3:2 An elder must be able to teach
- I admire your discipline to get up every morning -1 Ti 3:3 An elder must not be given to much wine
- I like to be close to you when you’re gentle -1 Ti 3:3 An elder must be gentle
- I notice how well you get along with your friends. -1 Ti 3:3 An elder must not be quarrelsome
- Our marriage is the best when we’re content. -1 Ti 3:3 An elder must not be covetous
- You manage (this) well -1 Ti 3:4 An elder must manage his own house well
- Your love means so much to our kids -1 Ti 3:4 An elder must have his children in submission with all reverence
- You are a blessing to our church. -1 Ti 3:5 An elder must be able to take care of the church
- Its so cool that you’ve been a Christian for ___ years! -1 Ti 3:6 An elder must not be a novice
- Your humility brings God’s grace for our family. -1 Ti 3:6 An elder must not be puffed up with pride lest he fall
- Thank you for having a good testimony with your work friends. -1 Ti 3:7 An elder must have good testimony with outsiders
- I really respect how hard you try to overcome temptations. -1 Ti 3:7 An elder must overcome temptation
- Thank you for trying to understand -1 Pe 3:7 Husbands must give understanding to their wives
- I have felt so special since the day you proposed. -1 Pe 3:7 Husbands must give honor to their wives
- I’m so thankful you know God’s grace for each of us. -1 Pe 3:7 Husbands see wives as coequals in the grace of life
- Thank you for praying for me. -1 Pe 3:7 Husbands must be men of prayer
- I’m glad we are like minded about Christ. -1 Pe 3:8 be likeminded
- I’m blessed by your compassion -1 Pe 3:8 be compassionate
- Your love makes me feel special -1 Pe 3:8 be loving
- For such a strong man you are tenderhearted. -1 Pe 3:8 be tenderhearted
- I noticed how courteous you were. -1 Pe 3:8 be courteous
- Thank you for not being insulting or overpowering. -1 Pe 3:8 not reviling
- You are such a blessing to me. -1 Pe 3:8 blessing one another
- We are blessed because you are such a nice guy. -1 Pe 3:8 inherit a blessing
(see also Genesis 3, Proverbs 5, Ephesians 5, 1 Timothy 3, 1 Peter 3)
- You have a powerful influence of moral excellence on the people around you –Pr 31:10 Virtuous (powerful influence of moral excellence)
- I hold you in high esteem, you are the most important person in my life –Pr 31:10 worth (held in high esteem)
- I trust you, you’re the most competent person I know –Pr 31:11 her husband trusts her
- You bring so much good into my days –Pr 31:12 you do me good all my days
- I appreciate how hard you work –Pr 31:13 work hard with hands
- I noticed how far out of your way you have to go to take care of all of us. –Pr 31:14 goes far to provide
- Thanks for getting up to care of us –Pr 31:15 rises early to provide for family and others
- I wish you didn’t have to make mony, but I’m impressed with how you do it. –Pr 31:16 earns private profits
- You are the strongest most steadfast woman I know –Pr 31:17 strength
- It makes me feel good when you perceive all is good, we’re going to be fine. –Pr 31:18 perceives all is good
- You strengthen me when I know hard times don’t destroy your confidence –Pr 31:18 lamp does not go out in darkness
- I love how you extend your hands to give to others –Pr 31:19 hold out her hands to give
- Your confidence is beautiful –Pr 31:21 confident
- I appreciate how fearless you are –Pr 31:21 not fear
- You look really nice today –Pr 31:22 well clothed
- I want to be the kind of man you respect and admire –Pr 31:23 respected husband
- You are so good at making ______________. –Pr 31:24 sells what she makes
- I just wanted to honor you by _______________. –Pr 31:25 strength and honor
- I love it when we rejoice together. –Pr 31:25 rejoicing
- I think you’re really wise and I appreciate your input. –Pr 31:26 wise
- I think you’re a really kind person. –Pr 31:26 kind
- Thank you for making our household run so smoothly. –Pr 31:27 watches over household
- I appreciate how hard you’re working –Pr 31:26 not idle
- You are leaving an incredible legacy. –Pr 31:28 children appreciate
- I believe in you and I’m excited about _________ (This part of our future) –Pr 31:28 husband affirms
- You are at the head of your class, there’s no one as gifted as you are. –Pr 31:29 excel in them all
- Your fear of the Lord is your most valuable quality. –Pr 31:30 fears the Lord
- You should praised for ____________. –Pr 31:30 to be praised
- I wish everyone knew how good you are at _____________. –Pr 31:31 show off your works
- Your gentle and quiet spirit is so beautiful –1 Pe 3:4
- Your love for the Lord inspires me to love Him more. -1 Pe 3:1
(see also Genesis 3, Proverbs 31, Ephesians 5, 1 Timothy 2, 1 Peter 3)
Have you ever lost a job? It’s never a fun experience. It hurts. Cleaning out your office is hard. Then the questions start. What am I going to do? How will we pay the bills? What will we do about health insurance? Will we lose our home?
When a pastor transitions out of a church, there are more conversations. He has to comfort his wife’s tears as she loses her community. He has to explain to his kids why they can’t go to church with their friends anymore. And while many people can change jobs without changing homes, for most pastors, a change of churches requires moving to another city. A pastor and his family invest their whole world into the church, their home, their community, and all their Christian relationships.
My wife and I are in a transition of our own. Two years ago we found mold in our attic because it wasn’t vented properly. We spend a lot of time and money fixing the problem. Recently we realized our kids rashes, stomach aches, and other symptoms may be from mold. We have been displaced from our home for three weeks this time. Fortunately, we’re finding it may not be our home, but our belongings. We are in the process of losing all our clothes and porous possessions. Why do we care so much about where we live and what we wear? I don’t know but we do.
In John 21 Jesus said to Peter, “18 Truly, truly, I say to you, when you were young, you used to dress yourself and walk wherever you wanted, but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will dress you and carry you where you do not want to go.”
Many pastors have a Peter calling and this effects the whole family. Sometimes they find the Lord’s plan is difficult. Pastor In Residence (PIR) Ministries exists to help pastors and their families in the difficult transitions of ministry. http://www.pirministries.org Many pastors transition every 4 – 10 years and many of these transitions last 12-18 months. If you’re a pastor and you don’t know what is next, you’re not alone. You’re not crazy. Be encouraged. God’s plan may be uncomfortable but He always takes care of His kids.
The road I have traveled has sometimes been steep,
through wild jagged places of life.
Sometimes I’ve stumbled and fallen so hard
that the stones cut my soul like a knife.
But the staff of my Shepherd would reach out for me
and lift me to cool pastures green.
With oil of the spirit anointing my wounds,
there I’d rest by the clear healing stream.
Oh, but now more than ever I cherish the cross.
More than ever I sit at His feet.
All the miles of my journey have proved my Lord true,
and He is so precious to me.
Is Love’s Old Sweet Story too good to be true?
Do you find all this hard to believe?
Has the cruel world we live in so battered your heart
that the hurt child inside you can’t grieve?
I can’t say I blame you.
I’ve been where you are.
But all I can say is it’s true!
You’re wanted, You’re precious,
You’re the love of His heart,
and the old rugged cross is for you.
More Than Ever lyrics © Warner/Chappell Music, Inc.